Socializing a Puppy during the Pandemic

Coco adores people – kids especially. He loves animals, too, particularly other dogs. He is quite the little social butterfly – he does a happy dance and loves to get a belly rub from everyone he meets. Getting a puppy during a pandemic presents some challenges. We haven’t been getting visitors to our house nor seeing half as many people as usual. How will he become socialized? I didn’t want a dog that growled at others or was only attached to me, since I was the only one home at the time. I knew I needed to make an effort to socialize a puppy during the pandemic, and it’s actually been easier than I imagined.

After arriving home in the late afternoon, and exploring his new digs, Coco slept for a bit. So adorable – I could watch him sleep all day. At that time, due to various circumstances, I was home alone and, heck, I was itching for my own socializing. (This pandemic is hard, isn’t it?) So…I decided I needed to get out of the house and, that night, I introduced Coco to a small group of my friends – outside, wearing masks, and socially distanced, of course. It was short and sweet — I didn’t want to overwhelm the itty bitty guy. My friends were charmed by his little puppy antics – I mean, seriously, Shih Tzu puppies are too adorable – what’s not to love? Coco loved them, too, and I knew his socialization was off to a good start.

Socializing Coco turned out to be effortless because I was basically home alone with him and had to take him with me everywhere I went. He was too young to be left home alone at eight weeks old. And take him with me, I did! I had to drop by my classroom to close it up for the summer. Since we had previously (abruptly) closed the school in the spring, it was surreal to go back to my classroom, but taking Coco made it better. Of course, we all wore masks and were socially distanced. I loved seeing my colleagues again after so long and Coco greeted them with his loving little self. I leashed him, but let him roam around my classroom and sometimes in the hall. Of course, he LOVED it. He explored every inch of my classroom and meeting new people. Later in the week, I scooped him up and took him on a “clap-out” and then later a “car parade”, in which we drove around to see our students standing outside their homes. It was really special and meaningful for teachers and students alike. I kept Coco on my lap and he “waved” at the students, but the little baby was exhausted after a half hour and slept for some of the ride (on my lap and later a towel on the car floor).

After that, Coco met a colleague’s baby niece — seriously, they were too cute together. First crush!! He was really good with her, as if he knew to be gentle. Later, I took Coco to an outdoor restaurant that allowed small pets. I took his food and water bowls and placed them nearby. He ate, drank, and napped nearby or on my lap. He seemed perfectly at home and well behaved, even though it was the first time going to a restaurant. Strangers came by our table several times to pet the little guy, who welcomed them lovingly. What a personality, this little guy.

Since the weather was PERFECT, I spent a lot of time outdoors with Coco those first weeks. We hung out in the front yard quite a bit and that’s how Coco met the neighborhood kids. They were in love with him and vice versa. They ranged from an almost 2 year old to a 10 year old. They cuddled, played, and let him rest when he was exhausted. They were so patient with him. One time, some of the boys swung by our backyard and played “soccer” with Coco. Too cute! The little guy loves that strange ball that he can’t sink his teeth into. They boys were so patient and let him chill as they proceeded to play soccer.

I was worried that Coco would become territorial and bark at visitors since we weren’t getting many those first weeks. But, I didn’t need to worry. As soon as it was safe, and still social distancing of course, I had people come by. Coco did so well! He loved meeting my book club friends — they’re amazing so who wouldn’t? — and didn’t bark or get territorial at all. If anything, he was overstimulated so I did need to pick him up a couple of times to get him to rest.

I’ve also socialized Coco at puppy obedience school where he met different dogs (all bigger than him) and their owners. He did well, although he was a bit apprehensive about getting stepped on. It was a fabulous experience for training and socializing. I highly recommend it.

As Coco grew older, we went on daily walks and met all kinds of people and dogs. One Great Dane was especially gentle with Coco and sat down so that Coco could reach his face (sort of). It was scary for me, but the owner is a neighbor and great. She reassured me that her dog is gentle with her cat.

Socializing a puppy during a pandemic was not as hard as I thought and actually helped me meet a lot of people too.

Ring-a-ling-a-ling

Most new puppy parents want our puppies to be house-trained IMMEDIATELY. Right? Even though all the experts say it could take a while, we tend to think – yeah, but our puppy is so brilliant and will instantly learn. Um…

After a shaky start of Coco’s “get me out of this contraption you awful human” car ride home, he settled in nicely. He was curious about everything and discovered that bath rugs and door mats were quite fun to chew. I knew that I had my work cut out for me with his hatred of the “torturous carrier,” and chewing needs, but I had more pressing issues – HOUSETRAINING. I felt confident because I had experience with Max (my previous Shih Tzu) and I had a trick up my sleeve: a bell door.

If you’re not familiar with using a bell door for housetraining, let me briefly explain the concept. Instead of having a puppy stand by or bark at a door when he has to go out (or have accidents in the house), they can paw at the bell (that is hung on a door) to alert you that he has to go outside. First, you hang the bell to the doorknob, low enough that your puppy can paw at it. Since Coco was tiny, I had it pretty low, almost touching the ground. Then, you move your puppy’s paw on it to make the bell sound and immediately say “outside!”, open the door and take the puppy outside. They begin to associate the sound of the bell with going outside in order to relieve themselves. It’s a nice trick for housetraining.

I did this from day one. The only problem was…at first, he didn’t go to the door on his own so I had to take him there. Then, when he did start pawing the bell on his own, it was mostly to PLAY outside. I had to watch him like a hawk to see whether he had to go. He would just want to play and I was a broken record with “do your business… do your business… do your business”.

The experts say to take out the puppy after drinking water, after eating, after napping. I think I ran myself ragged taking him outside because puppies do all of the above constantly! And each time, we hit the bell, I said “outside!” and out we went. Thank God the weather was cooperative for the most part. It was early June in Michigan and we had the BEST weather for this. I don’t think it rained once. I was lucky too because I was off for the summer (as a teacher), so I had time to focus on Coco.

My backyard became our special hangout. I spent so much time going outside that I decided it was a good opportunity to garden, read, write, talk on the phone, and video chat. Sometimes, I forgot why we went outside. Oh yeah, housetraining.

Coco absolutely loved the outdoors! He ran around. He chased leaves, munched them. He found sticks, munched them. He was so tiny that he fit in the oddest tiny spots I didn’t know I had by the house, like old garden spots that had been filled with dirt. He loved the dirt, too! What a little rascal. He always found a way to get filthy, munch on grass or something. He “helped” me weed — those poor weeds didn’t have a chance with Coco.

Besides running myself ragged with vigilantly watching an energetic puppy, housetraining was only 60% effective that first month. Just when he’d go a couple of days without accidents, I’d find a little puddle or other nice “present” in the corner. Ugh!! I think I used an entire bottle of urine neutralizer spray. Many experts say to crate train, but I needed an alternative because it was just too painful for me to endure Coco’s desperate howling in a confined space. More about that another time.

Here’s what finally worked with 98% effectiveness. I started writing down the times that he relieved himself to find a pattern. I was hopeful because he was definitely learning — his accidents were in corners, as if he knew he had to go away from where we lived. I figured out about how long Coco could hold it (#1 and #2). I also began to take him to a “potty spot” in the yard, on a leash instead of letting him just play in the yard. This helped A LOT because he started to understand that there was a purpose (besides playing) for ringing the bell to go outside. I gave him a lot of praise when he’d relieve himself right away (outside) and sometimes I’d give him a small treat. I gradually stopped taking him out on the leash in the yard and he continued to go to his potty spot, as well as the perimeter of the yard.

All said and done, it took about 6 weeks to housetrain the little guy. He still likes to romp in the yard – and hey – he’s a puppy – he still chews on leaves and the occasional stick. Yes, I was fortunate to be able to stay home and spend all that time housetraining, and enjoyed the beautiful weather. There were definitely stressful times, but with LOTS of time, patience, resources, and a positive attitude (most days), we got there!! Best of luck to you new puppy parents! Believe me that this initial investment in time is so worth it in the end.

Ring-a-ling-a-ling!

Puppy Lessons

Coco at 8 weeks old – not a fan of the pet carrier

Ewok face, guinea pig, and fluff ball – all described my 8-week Shih Tzu, Coco. It’s been six months since then and I’ve learned a few things about successfully raising a happy puppy who is an important part of our family. While I still have much to learn, I’d like to share my experiences here for anyone who is thinking about getting a Shih Tzu puppy. I’m not a trainer nor expert, but all who know me will attest that I’m honest, resourceful, and resilient. Believe me – you will need all of these, too.

The first days of bringing Coco home were a rollercoaster ride of emotions — even on that first day that I picked him up from the farm where he was born. At first, I was thrilled at how sweet and friendly he was — Shih Tzu babies are adorable and irresistible. He was itty bitty at less than 4 pounds and greeted me with the sweetest happy dance – he stole my heart at first sight. But then, he cried and howled the WHOLE way home. For an hour. What did I get myself into here? It had been more than 15 years since I had a puppy.

The second that I placed Coco in the pet carrier, he desperately scrambled to get out. His tiny stature did not hinder his determination. Due to the pandemic and circumstances at that time, I didn’t have the option to bring along someone to hold Coco for the ride home. Before I could even back out of the winding driveway, he was triumphantly dangling on the side ready to jump out. Anywhere but in there. That horrible faux lambskin-padded deluxe airplane approved pet carrier. He left me with no choice but to zip him up in the (ventilated) carrier and we were on our way.

This was NOT the start I had envisioned. My previous dog, Max, had settled in nicely and slept most of the way home with some reassuring words. This little guy was not having it. What now?

I learned my first “puppy lessons” on that LONG ride home. While Coco was still sweet and adorable, he was also an agile, stubborn, Houdini-like puppy who did not like to be in a confined space. More importantly, I learned that I needed to earn this little guy’s trust and the road ahead would not be easy, but it would be worth it. I should not compare Coco to Max or to any other dogs. Coco was his own individual.

Stay tuned for how I taught Coco to love going in his pet carrier (believe it or not) and more puppy lessons he taught me…

Puppy Love

What’s the best investment to make during the COVID 19 pandemic? No, not toilet paper….a PUPPY of course!!

LINK to Coco’s Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/coco_tales2020/

Coco has been one of the very best things that happened in 2020 to me! He’s a total pick-me-upper whenever I’ve felt down. It’s totally puppy love. And…I’m not the only one in love with this sweetheart. He now has over 500 Instagram followers!! He’s incredibly sweet, mischievous, naughty, funny, smart, and did I mention I’m totally in love?

Stay tuned for more about Coco in upcoming posts…

Montenegrins – Brave, NOT Aggressive

Generous, caring and brave are some of the words that describe the people I met during my EMU Study Abroad in Ulcinj, a small town on the southern coast of the breathtakingly beautiful country of Montenegro.  My positive experiences with Montenegrins will resonate with me forever and here are a few examples:

  • There are no words to fully thank Silvija, who is hugely responsible for opening her native Montenegro to us. As busy as she was, she graciously educated us on the culture, answered even our silliest questions, and went above and beyond to ensure the program’s success. Who does this? A Montenegrin does!
  • My daughter and I were whisked off on an unforgettable late afternoon tour by Medina, a gregarious woman who wears many hats, including being a local English teacher. Knowing how busy Medina is, I kept thanking her and telling her to go home to her lovely family. She insisted that she wanted us to experience some of her favorite places and continued to grace us with her time, energy, and fun personality. Oh, and we saw INCREDIBLE areas that we probably would not have seen on our own. Who does that? A Montenegrin does!!
  • One of our local drivers (we called Joseph) opened car doors, patiently waited for us to have our morning coffee at the local bakery, happily agreed to our often-inconvenient requests of driving ALL OVER, made helpful connections for us, and MUCH more — with a smile and without keeping the meter running. In fact, on numerous occasions, Joseph refused to charge us for short trips! Who does that? A Montenegrin does!!
  • The staff at the Copacabana Beach Restaurant graciously treated our entire Study Abroad team of teachers to a delicious dinner – just to thank us for being teachers! Who does this? You got it. A Montenegrin does!!

I have countless more stories like these. Needless to say, I was appalled to hear anyone describe Montenegrins as aggressive. That was quite the opposite of my experience and anyone who takes the time to get to know the people would surely agree with me.

Thank you to the lovely people of Montenegro!

Montenegro – Day 3 and beyond

Unbelievable! The clear blue color of the water in the Adriatic Sea is mesmerizing!

Days 3  and 4 of my Study Abroad were filled with teaching, sunbathing, and exploring. The school and our apartment are located in Stoj, which are basically suburbs of  Ulcinj,

My morning routine is to walk down the street (about 10 minutes) to the bakery, have a fattening breakfast of  Burek or other delicious pastry, and of course COFFEE.  We ask for “American” coffee and it’s a hit-or-miss because they basically bring out whatever they feel like it — usually cappuccino.  (By the way, I tried Turkish coffee, which is super thick and nothing like American. Let’s just say it’s not for me.)

After sitting for a few minutes (since they don’t like to give  “to-go” cups), we start the hike over to the school. On the way, we encounter several animals, including COWS, sheep, cats, and dogs. Oh, and there’s a rooster singing his song nearby. The cows stare you down and are basically grazing wherever they want. The stray dogs have clipped ears — I was told it’s to show that they are neutered/spayed and safe.

The hike to the school (from the bakery) is about twenty minutes. I’m loving the exercise, but we had a couple of rainy mornings and I was totally not prepared! Luckily my roomie bought an umbrella for me. So sweet!!

The kids are adorable! They absolutely love everything we do, but they especially LOVE a particular song that is now forever engraved in my dreams — Baby Shark!  They beg us to let them sing it EVERY DAY! These kids are so eager to learn that they show up 30 minutes early every day…in the summer!

Basically, after school, I am either doing lesson plans, homework or sneaking off to an adventure like the beach or the downtown, which they call City Center.  I also went to nearby towns called Budva and Kotor. Both of these places had cobble-stoned streets and little quaint shops and restaurants.  So fun!

On the weekend, I went off to Croatia with four other teachers. It’s an adventure just to get there since we had to catch a ferry and go through customs.  Once we got settled in, we explored Old Town, where Game of Thrones was filmed! So exciting. We also went on a private boat tour and stopped at three islands. At one of the islands, we swam inside a cave, which had the most beautiful blue water I’ve ever seen!

After that amazing trip, it was back to work on Monday morning and, even though I was exhausted, the kids’ enthusiasm made me forget how tired I was. I even played soccer (for a hot sweaty couple of minutes.} The weather warmed up quite a bit, which made our morning walks difficult. And sweaty.

Tuesday afternoon, about 15 of us ventured out to Ada Bojana Beach. It was the BEST day! We hung out at the beautiful beach and then hopped on a boat to get dinner at a seafood restaurant. The staff was attentive and the food was yummy! We were all so happy with our little adventure.

Today (Wednesday) was interesting. We were told the power was going to go out for the whole city. Why? Who knows? Then we found out that it’s not happening. Meanwhile, there were two earthquakes in neighboring Albania and many people said they felt it here.  (I didn’t.) Later in the after school, all of us were treated to a special dinner cruise by one of the locals. It was relaxing and a fun way to end our week. Well, almost. Our last day of school is tomorrow and then on Friday, the kids will perform for all the top officials in the area. Oh boy. I’m going to miss these kids!

Stay tuned. for Rome…

 

Montenegro – Day 2

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Excited faces and voices crowded the foyer of the Montenegrin elementary school and then suddenly it was time! This is what we’ve been preparing and waiting for! Originally we had 16 and as if by magic, we now had 26 eager 3rd/4th graders.  The classroom was smaller than my own classroom back home and we literally could not squeeze another desk or chair. Despite the large sized group, the students behaved so well and we had no behavior issues. It was a productive and fun-filled day! They were all still smiling at the end of the day, so this was definitely a successful first day! I loved every minute of it! More about the kids later.

Later in the afternoon, we hit the beach. The beaches in this area have funny names. This one was called Copacabana! The sand was a dark gray color and very soft. The water looked a brilliant blue (more pictures coming soon), and the sun was hot — until the clouds started getting darker and we finally made a run for a beach cafe when a sandstorm practically threw us at it.  More on the food another time.

Here are some observations and things I’ve learned about the culture and community, so far:

  • Montenegrins don’t buy coffee on the go.  On our walk to the school, I stopped for a quick breakfast bite and wanted my coffee in a “to-go” cup. They laughed at me and amongst each other for a minute before handing me a tiny cup with the coffee, which was delicious, by the way).  I guess they don’t believe in Starbucks here and are not upset about it.
  • Cows roam free on the streets. I saw at least 4 cows on this same morning walk. So cool. They didn’t bother us at all as we basically walked around them on the path. I love cows!
  • The kids in our class are VERY SIMILAR to the kids back home. They love many things and especially SOCCER (they say football) and DOGS! They loved EVERYTHING we did with them and especially anything with music, dancing, singing, movement,  and interactions with partners or in small groups.
  • The kids here do the FLOSS dance too!! If you’re not a teacher or a parent, you may not be familiar with it — omg! Youtube is most likely behind this! Ditto with FLIPPING water bottles — well, only one kid was doing this, but it’s a fad I’m glad is mostly over in the U.S.

My jet-lagged brain needs a break…more tomorrow! And yes, more pictures too…

 

Montenegro – Day 1

I made it! As I write this, I still can’t believe how everything aligned so perfectly well. First, I arrived at Detroit airport three hours prior to departure. I discovered that the airport has a Leo’s Coney Island and it serves WINE! After a glass of Moscato, I began to relax and begin to truly get excited about my overseas adventure and fortunate to have my daughter along for the ride. Priceless!

Our nine-hour flight was excellent. Aside from minor expected turbulence here and there, it was a smooth flight. My daughter thought it was quite the bumpy ride, but I’ve been in much much worse. One thing about flying on KLM to Italy — they want to feed you almost the entire way! We had snacks, a full meal, endless drinks, including WINE, dessert, more snacks, and even breakfast! I appreciated the sleeping masks and decent choices of movies — I finally watched A Wrinkle in Time, Pitch Perfect 3, and some parts of other movies. I did not fall asleep, but then I usually can’t when I’m flying AND I was still worried if I’d make my connecting flight to Montenegro.

So…we arrived in Rome a couple of minutes early, like 9:00 am, and my flight to Montenegro (on a different airline) starts boarding at 9:20 am and departs at 10:00 am. THE STRUGGLE IS REAL. As you can imagine, clad with only our backpacks, my daughter and I (politely) charged through to the door as soon as it was possible. Passengers and crew were accommodating and we were the first to get off the plane. Buongiorno! The Italian airport was easy to navigate and within minutes, we were at our gate! To my relief, we did not have to go through customs and made the time for boarding! We were shuttled on a bus a few miles over to our plane. Talk about sweating a hundred buckets, but we settled in for the short flight and I was able to finally BREATHE.

The short flight to Montenegro was uneventful (yay!) and customs was a piece of cake. Of course, since we were warned about pickpockets in these situations, I was a bit paranoid at times and didn’t completely relax until we were picked up by our van driver (arranged by our amazing EMU professors).

First impressions of Montenegro — the mountains are simply gorgeous and I can see how the country got its name – black mountains. During the bumpy and curvy hour and a half bus ride to our apartments in Ulcinj, we saw picturesque sceneries of mountains and deep blue beaches. My jetlagged brain can’t think of the perfect words to describe everything, but I promise I’ll post pictures soon.

One thing I discovered on the bus, however, is that I get motion sickness! Really? Luckily I was surrounded by an entire bus of teachers and they were so supportive and helped me get through it (or should I say “threw-up” it — yikes!).

Soon we settled into our apartments and after a heavenly shower, I was beginning to feel better and tagged along for a grocery trip and then later met everyone for dinner at the Flora restaurant. The Montenegrins know how to cook! The food was delicious and we ate like queens! Seriously.

Day 1 was a traveling day and I’m just thankful I made it and my luggage did too. I went to bed about 10:00 pm and (unfortunately) I’m up now when I should be SLEEPING.

Tomorrow we get to meet the children.  I’m so excited…stay tuned.

Study Abroad Countdown….1 day to go

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Soon I will be in a foreign land and utterly and completely jet-lagged. I will experience culture shock, be working, and feel 1,000 years old in every crevice of my body. All the while, I’ll be smiling like the summer sun behind a cloud. Why? I will be learning about a different culture and, hopefully, making a positive impact on a group of children. Where am I going and why? MONTENEGRO! It’s for a Study Abroad for the TESOL graduate program at Eastern Michigan University in which I get to teach English to Montenegrin children. I get to do this within a brief walk to a hot vacation beach spot. Oh, did I forget to mention, the gorgeous beaches!!!

I’d never heard of Montenegro before now. Most people I’ve spoken with hadn’t heard of it either unless they’re from that part of Europe. To the north, Montenegro borders Serbia, while in the southeast, it borders Kosovo and Albania, and to the west are Croatia and Bosnia. Here’s a Google map to show where’s it’s located in proximity to the U.S.:

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My suitcase is mostly packed and I’m a bit of a nervous wreck (due to a too short layover from Rome to Montenegro — ugh — will I miss my connecting flight?), but MOSTLY I’m super excited!! What an opportunity!! I know it will be a life-changing experience because I went on a similar trip (Educators to Japan) years ago.

Stay tuned to see if I made my connecting flight and how I endure jet-lag, but most of all, what I learn about the Montenegrin culture and how it goes with the kids. I can’t wait to meet them!!

Roadside Memorials

A mixture of sadness and curiosity washes over me every time I see a street corner adorned with a cross, teddy bear, and flowers. I have seen these roadside memorials throughout my life, but have never known anyone who personally created one. How did this practice begin? Who makes them? What is their function? Fortunately, Gary E.A. Saum’s folklore project, “Roadside Memorials: Material Focus of Love, Devotion, and Remembrance,” helps satisfy my curiosity.

Saum reports differing accounts for the origin of roadside memorials. One source traces it to the 1847 piling of stones tradition called descansos (resting places) during the Taos rebellion in New Mexico. Another source attributes it to a Mexican tradition of marking the death of a loved one with a pile of stones. Yet other evidence points to the centuries-old tradition in Latin American cultures where offerings to Catholic saints were placed at an altar or statue. Such an act is similar to roadside memorials whereby the “offerings” are left to memorialize the victim instead of giving thanks to saints. Therefore, the tradition “appear[s] to have started in the new world either as an imported Spanish tradition or as a tradition borrowed from the Spanish by the Indians” (Saum 257).

Centuries later, this tradition is currently found at the site of fatal car accidents. In Saum’s fieldwork, he interviewed grieving family members who have a roadside memorial. It was constructed the night of 17-year-old Eric’s death when Eric’s high school buddies nailed together a wooden cross, placed it at the spot of the accident, and the spot was quickly filled with mementos from other friends. About two months later, Eric’s mother added luminaries and pledged to light them every night to show her love and devotion for her son. Similar roadside memorials are seen throughout the U.S., Mexico and numerous other countries. Accordingly, making them is not limited to people with a certain nationality. Rather, they are made across cultures by “friends, family members, and loved ones to remember someone lost to them in a traffic fatality” (256).

For some people, roadside memorials represent a holy ground; for some, they are a location for prayer vigil. Yet, others consider them warnings against drinking and driving. As seen in Saum’s fieldwork, Eric’s mother views it as a place to show her dedication to Eric’s memory. Thus, a roadside memorial’s function is “as varied and individual as the person it commemorates” (258).

Saum’s folklore project helped me better understand the tradition of roadside memorials and especially about the people who create them. The heart-wrenching story, as told by the interviewees in Saum’s fieldwork, helped me relate to someone who would create a roadside memorial. Especially, I was touched by the mother’s unwavering dedication to light the candles every day. Overall, I can see how roadside memorials are about “love, devotion, and remembrance,” as this project is fittingly entitled.

Saum, Gary E.A. “Roadside Memorials: Material Focus of Love, Devotion, and Remembrance.” Living Folklore: An Introduction to the Study of People and Their Traditions. By Martha Sims and Martine Stephens. 2nd ed. Logan: Utah State UP, 2011. 255-69. Print.